This past week has definitely been one of many changes. Some people have different views and opinions on the subjects. With one flag that to me represented racism, slavery and white supremacy coming down. Another flag went up in it’s place, representing what America is all about: Freedom , unity , respect, and love. For me I’m glad I won’t have to explain to my unborn child why their friends dads or moms can’t get married and me and mom are. Where is the compassion in that? I would put my self in their shoes and look at it from the kids point of view, and be really confused by that in itself. To me this isn’t a political thing, it was made one because it had to go through those stages. To me this is a civil human right thing. I have no worries about having to tell this child why there are two dad’s or two mom’s kissing each other, my response will always be the same.. Love. Simple as that. Why would I tell my child, you can’t love this person and you can’t love that person? If that were the case and everyone still had their way,  we all be insect offspring with mutant children running and limping around and the end of humanity coming to an end sooner. Granted the end of humanity by the looks of it still maybe coming to an end sooner still but that’s a different subject all together.

Why is everyone scared of telling their kids that two men or two women can love one a other? I’m sure as fuck not going to sugar coat it for my child. While people keep saying I’m okay with it as long as they don’t keep shoving it in our faces everyday… umm isn’t that what straight people are doing to gay people everyday?
Our society is changing, and with change always comes fear and like Master Yoda says fear leads to anger , anger leads to hate and hate leads to the dark side of the force. We may have a some that don’t turn to the dark side and who accept that the world we live in today is changing and go on with their daily lives. We will always have those people who embrace the dark side and who will do all they can in order to cause chaos and accept no responsibility for their actions and words. I say we just have to show them how it isn’t so bad to be on the good side of the force once in a while.  Btw I’m all for the empire but that has no reflection on my personal views lol

So in the end love conquered hate and hopefully the world that my child will grow up in keeps making changes for the better. Much love everyone! 

Some say you’re not truly a dad till the baby is born and in your arms, but fuck that. This kid is already needing my attention 24/7. Yes the wife is the one who has be in bed all day and has to indure the labor pains and push a water melon size being out of a small hole.

Still , I’m already constantly worried that something is wrong every time the wife says “Ouch, this or that hurts”. Chelsea, the wife, can’t go downstairs to fix herself food or get a bottle of water. Which is a good thing at times, she’s clumsy and her falling down the stairs is something that could possible happen. So, who has to make the trips up and down the said stairs? This guy. Who has to make sure she has everything she needs for the day before I leave for work? This guy. Who has to remain patient with said wife if she forgot to mention she needed something from downstairs when I asked her two times before I came up if she needed anything? This guy. Needless to say the months leading up to the birth have taught me a lot about my wife and myself as well as some lessons already for caring for someone 24/7.

When someone says you’re not a dad yet till the baby comes out, tell them to shove it. No matter what stage you’re at, if your partner is 1 or 40 weeks the moment that your sperm makes a touchdown in the egg, you’re a dad.

On another note though as well, you don’t have to have your sperm in that persons egg to be considered a dad. To me being a dad is a person, regardless of your gender or what have you, if you support that child and love them. You are a dad. If you encourage that child to be who they want to be and help them become that person. You’re a dad. Regardless if you’re a single mom or a man who now wants to be a women, you’re a dad just a special kind of dad. You’re children come into this world loving you no matter what so the same should be said for your children. Love them no matter what. Unless they end up killing you then you can lower it from love to like. 

From all the father’s figures I’ve had in my life each one of these people below in the photo have contributed to the person that I am today. I may not have spent a lot of time with each of them since my dad’s dad passed away when I was only 5, and my mom’s dad living in Mexico. I’ve still learned something from each one of them that will help me on my path to being a dad.

Top left is me and my dad. center photo is a guy who employed my mom to work for him, she ended up taking me to work sometimes and ever since then he has been a man who I’ve called grandpa for the past 20 something years and still love to this day. Top right is a picture of me holding my brother who right now has two kids under the age of 4 and couldn’t love those kids more. Bottom left is my dad’s dad, Pops, who like I said died when I was 5 but still have memories of and gave me an understanding later on to what death meant. Last but not least bottom right is my mom’s dad, who is one of thee most hardest working men I know. The way he cares and provides for his family to this day is amazing.

Happy Father’s day everyone.