Everyone always says that when you have a baby all your plans and being in control of everything go out the door, being a NICU dad has shown me that more than ever.

So far our 31 weeker (baby born at 31 weeks) has been in the NICU for 3 weeks 3 days. It’s been a mission so far for sure. Cassius is still doing great and making great progress everyday so that means that he gets to come sooner than his due date HOPEFULLY. They told us that regardless it could take up until his due date for him to be released. They say that because they don’t want you to have your hopes up for a specific day and then the baby does something weird like have his heat stop or skip a beat and then they have to keep him in even longer.

The best thing I could do right now is just showing up and being there. There is not much else besides waiting to see how he progresses everyday. I sit with him and hold him during his feedings and have been starting to read to him here and there. He sleeps 20 hours out of 24 hours of the day which is a lot of down time and just sitting by his bed. But really thats all you can do, that and be there for my wife.  Its been difficult all around, with her stressing about pumping milk, which not all women do right away to the amount that shes been pumping has had her freaking out. We did find out though that the Medela breast pump has been one of the best pumps that she has used. We had to get a medical grade one because of him being a preemie. Insurance sent her a pump that hurt and that didn’t get as much milk out as the Medela. So definitly do your research and compare pumps because it does make a difference.

Well thats it for now so far, have fun!