9 months

I guess I’m on a , post every two months kick. Seriously though the amount of stuff that has happened in the past two months is crazy. We got crawling almost down and some teeth are starting to poke through!

We got to meet Mickey!

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His monthly photo!

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St. Patrick’s day celebration!

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Got to meet a random person in a bunny costume for bunny day!

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Likes to go on hikes and be on new adventures.

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It’s been a misson so far, I’m not sugar coating shit. The amount of frustration is immense but coming home everyday and seeing his smile when I walk in the door is amazing. I’m trying to enjoy that shit for as long as possible until he’s too cool for it. The wife is still at home taking care of the little guy which I like BUT….it’s fucking rough trying to live a non miserable life and paying bills. Granted we have it hella good and live with her mom so we dont pay rent , I know you’re like “fuck this guy he has no idea, fucking douche bag they’re bigger problems” still the debt that we have and the other bills do add up. Trying to live a “normal” life and still go out and do stuff is not the business. What happened to just one person in the family having a job and being able to support a family of 4? How to single parents do it? You’re just working for child careand that’s it basically.  Wtf ?!  Oh well other than this update mouch else is going on. Until then have fun!

7 months old

This kid has grown so fast its remarkable. The things he is starting to do, the new sounds and noises he makes. The best part of my day is coming home and seeing his smile when i walk in the room.

I’m still trying to live that stay at home dad life but the wife hasn’t found anytbing remotely close to what we need for me to quit my job.

Cassius is still able to sleep through the night with little to no help from us. We lay him down and boom he’s out.

Normal schedule for me is now waking up to go to the gym , come home ,change , get ready for work, come home from work, feed him, take a nap, wake up feed him again, play and then bath time and then bed time again. Pretty easy peasy. 

We’re on to more solid foods which is a pain in the ass. You thought feeding with a bottle took forever feedings have taken longer so he can eat more and get the while swallowing and eating from a spoon thing down. Its funny but still the time it takes to do everything
sucks ass.

I’ve really been meaning to do a lot more product reviews but it hasn’t been going so well lately on the home front, the house is getting redone because we had a leak and they found asbestos. So for the past month and a half we’ve been living in a hotel. Did you hear me… a hotel in a two bedroom suite with a baby, a wife,  a dog and a mother-in-law. If i didn’t believe in hell before I sure do now.

For now have fun yall.

Month 5

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We took Cassius to Disneyland last week. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I thought it was going to be a bunch of crying and not being able to enjoy shit throughout the day. I was scared our 500 dollar tickets were going to go to waste on diaper changes and bottle feedings.

Nope.

Didn’t happen.

We went with another couple who also have a newborn kid of 7 months so that made things a lot easier and a lot less hectic.  But still people , Disneyland with a baby is doable and yeah we are one of those people that bring their baby to Disneyland. It doesn’t matter those pictures that you get with them early on will be great to compare later when they are older. So if you have doubts about going just go!

Uhh where’s mom?

I took my son out for our first dad and son days,  where it was just me and him all day. I can tell you the looks I get from people thinking I don’t know what I’m doing or they’re expecting for my wife to be close by, is crazy.  We went to breakfast and two people asked where momma was .. “uhh at home . . ” yes the baby is 4 months old but still it doesn’t mean “momma” has to be around 24/7.

I’m a strong independent man lol it’s a baby people , it’s not like he’s a nuclear bomb and everyone is curious if I’m going to drop it or not.

Ren fair

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Took the kid to his first Ren fair here in vegas. Definitely well worth it and can’t wait for this kid to get older so we can all dress up and enjoy it more. He slept the whole time we were there which was a plus because I got to eat my turkey leg in peace lol. He woke up once but just went back to sleep on the walk to the car. Good little family outing, food prices are still fucking high but what can you do?

Change of plans.

Plans hella change everyday for me. Parents that say ,”oh no my kid will go off my schedule, I’m not going to have them rule my life.” Um yeah fucking right !! that doesn’t really happen. Regardless of what schedule you might think you might have for the day it could change from one moment to the next. And sometimes it won’t even be because of the kid.

Take this morning for instance.  I go to the gym at 6am 3 to 4 times a week. Somewhere during the night my wife gave me the baby to ease him to sleep and he just happened to stay in my arms the whole night. I wake up with him cuddled in my arms and I just couldn’t move him. Not because I didn’t want to go to the gym but because I wanted to spend just one more hour with him before I had to start my day. During the week I see him maybe 5 hours a day so taking advantage of some extra time here and there to me is worth it. Plus I go running everyday after work so it’s not like I won’t get in some physical activity in.

The point is you have to be comfortable and okay with things changing day to day. Yes a schedule is nice it provides stability for the family but those moments where it’s out of your hands or you just want an extra hour of bonding time in the morning don’t beat yourself up over it.

First day back to work

Definitely missed the kid. All I could think about all day was what he would be doing at those times I looked at the clock. Couldn’t get out of work fast enough. Really want to work on being a stay at home dad but the wife needs to get a job first that makes at least 25 an hour to cover both our incomes. Also I really want to own my own ice cream truck and have legit 50s uniforms. Tons of wants but not enough funds.

He is free!

He finally came home on Saturday! Cassius has been home since then and it’s been a great new adventure that we’ve been waiting for ever since he’s been born. NICU was an experience that has gave us a whole different outlook on life. We are definitely glad that that chapter is over and done with. Cassius has been really easy so far. The only thing that I have to get adjusted to is waking up every two to three hours. Him being a preemie has me extra freaked out at night when I  hear him make a weird noise but still really worth all the sleepless hours so far. For now talk to yall later it’s feeding time!

Coming to terms of being a NICU dad.

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Everyone always says that when you have a baby all your plans and being in control of everything go out the door, being a NICU dad has shown me that more than ever.

So far our 31 weeker (baby born at 31 weeks) has been in the NICU for 3 weeks 3 days. It’s been a mission so far for sure. Cassius is still doing great and making great progress everyday so that means that he gets to come sooner than his due date HOPEFULLY. They told us that regardless it could take up until his due date for him to be released. They say that because they don’t want you to have your hopes up for a specific day and then the baby does something weird like have his heat stop or skip a beat and then they have to keep him in even longer.

The best thing I could do right now is just showing up and being there. There is not much else besides waiting to see how he progresses everyday. I sit with him and hold him during his feedings and have been starting to read to him here and there. He sleeps 20 hours out of 24 hours of the day which is a lot of down time and just sitting by his bed. But really thats all you can do, that and be there for my wife.  Its been difficult all around, with her stressing about pumping milk, which not all women do right away to the amount that shes been pumping has had her freaking out. We did find out though that the Medela breast pump has been one of the best pumps that she has used. We had to get a medical grade one because of him being a preemie. Insurance sent her a pump that hurt and that didn’t get as much milk out as the Medela. So definitly do your research and compare pumps because it does make a difference.

Well thats it for now so far, have fun!